Men’s Issues
My work with men often makes use of a blending of therapy and coaching. In these cases, they reach a point of realizing “I (might) need help” - but don’t always know what type of help they need or what they want to agree to.
Many times, men begin working with me on the heels of a challenging situation such as an outburst or behavior outside of their normal functioning, misuse or overuse of a substance that led to poor decisions or behaviors, or an interaction with police or a legal charge.
Also, there are times when men begin work with me at the insistence of a woman in their life.
The most common response from men when we review personal growth and progress is: understanding and organization. They report feeling more organized about things they were questioning, struggling with or seeking formulation about.
The beginning of our work together usually ends up addressing one or more of the following five things - how and why this occurs I am unsure, but I just wanted to note it here.
How they experience and handle their anger.
How they behave in the car while driving.
Their use of pornography.
Their use of alcohol or other substances.
How they argue and treat other people.
Why they are disliked by their family members or get called a jerk, asshole, etc. more often they they prefer.
Two elements of my work with men that I hear in feedback that are appealing:
personal legacy - who they are matters, the value they bring to their work matters, the role they play in lives of those they care about (e.g. family members, children, friends).
the blend of therapy and coaching. Sometimes for men, therapy at first glance can seem too touchy-feely-problem-focused. Blending elements that focus on important experiences they have had with focused movement forward helps them conceptualize what they want to accomplish.